so I made it up as I went along. in some ways it was helpful not to have a script and to let them know we were winging it. there are a couple of people who talk all the time and they came through for me. really the whole thing, as usual, was far less traumatic than the leadup. but that leadup I can never seem to dispense with.
I really am beginning to see a computer career (ha. I'll be of retirement age before it starts!) ahead of me. over thanksgiving U pointed out that taking classes part time at City College is a great way not to have to pay back your loans after getting the PhD. so I'm thinking finish this degree then go learn web design in earnest, but relatively slowly. I don't know how I'd finance this exactly given that I'm maxed out on student loans, but maybe I can find a strangely lucrative part time job proofreading or something.
hell I don't know. as daisydumont pointed out, if I end up out on the streets at least I will have a gorgeous warm blanket with me.