1. Are you named after anyone? If so, explain.
Martin, my middle name, was my paternal grandfather's father's name (I was just going to say "greatgrandfather" but that names four different people, two of whom I know absolutely nothing about). when I transitioned I took the name my parents would have given me if I had been noticeably a boy.
2. Do you have your children's names picked out already? If so, is there any significance?
the only name I ever thought I might name a baby was Michael. I've always liked the sound of it. I was fairly certain from a young age that there would be no babies though. as for cats, it takes me a long time to name a cat after one has moved in with me as I have to know something about their personalities first. I tend towards the literary/artistic/traditional naming, although Santiago is named after a baseball player. but still it's a traditional name in a culture other than my own. Jackson is mostly named after Jackson Pollock. Mikhail was just a pretty form of Micheal, and Machiavelli more or less looked at our bookshelf and told us his name, as well as his nickname, Damien.
3. If you were born a member of the opposite sex what would your name have been?
I was born a member of the 'opposite' sex and my name was Erin Kathleen. as you can see, my parents liked the sound of an "Erix" first name. Kathleen is the middle name of a maternal aunt.
4. If you could re-name yourself what name would you pick and why?
I suppose I could have named myself Michael, but I had known about Erik for such a long time that it seemed like it had to be my name. and Michael Schneider? what kind of german name is that?
5. Are there any mispronunciations/typos that people do w/ your name constantly?
I get mildly annoyed when people with whom I've had many written communications randomly use "c" instead of "k" in Erik. I understand it in first-time encounters, but with people I know well I feel a little like they just don't care that much about my personal details.
in the deep south no one got "Schneider" right in either pronunciation or spelling. I'm not saying they were a stupid bunch, but certainly an insular one. "Sni/yder" is one I especially hate, just because I prefer ethnicky names to stay ethnicky.
From the altfriday5:
1. What makes you feel as if where you live is your "home", rather than just somewhere to stay?
as far as broad location goes, I feel "at home" in any college town or city on the west coast in a way I never felt at home in georgia. I'd say I haven't really felt at home since I was about 8, though, in any particular building. I do make my room my home in that I go to great lengths to decorate it in a personal way but every apartment I've ever lived in seems exchangable for every other apartment I've ever lived in. in that way I feel like a bit of a nomad who carries his room around with him and stakes it down in different locations. I'm not sure I could handle feeling at home with anyone else living there but I'm sure I'd be lonely living alone.
yesterday my therapist said she thought asperger's might have some appropriate relevance to my overall diagnosis, by the way.
2. How "homey" does your current abode feel to you?
My room, as usual, is cave-like and safe. my bed is the safest place in the world which is why the cats and I spend so much time up there. I feel fairly comfortable in the rest of the house, but I can't say I feel completely at home. I mean I can walk around in my underwear without feeling embarrassed but part of that is just living in the city. so my neighbors see me naked. so what.
3. What would your dream home be like?
spacious with an upstairs room with a view of mountains or ocean. paid for. well-appointed and neat but not outrageously clean. a converted warehouse still occupies some portion of my future home imagination. it would have to be seismically upgraded to the hilt.
4. What would your nightmare home be like?
A single-occupancy hotel room. a shelter. the street.
5. Of all the places you have lived in your life, where did you feel most "at home"?
I was beginning to feel nicely at home in our first apartment in Seattle when it burned down. between 1983 and 1996 it seems like we always moved when our lease was up so obviously I'm not the only one with the 'not feeling at home' problem. on the other hand, I've lived in this apartment for 8 years and still consider it a temporary situation.
this meme made me sad. wasn't expecting that.